Wedding stress can get the best of every bride and groom—but that’s where the wedding party comes in! Being a bridesmaid (or groomsmen) is so much more than standing by your best friend’s side on the big day. It’s about supporting them throughout the entire wedding planning process.

When wedding planning gets overwhelming—and trust us, it will—there are plenty of things you can do to help. Whether it is writing a handwritten letter, surprising your bestie with a bouquet or sharing words of encouragement, the little actions you take during the planning process will mean so much to the bride.

To give you a headstart, we outlined some simple and thoughtful ways to show the bride you’ve always got her back and to help her kick wedding planning stress to the curb.